Realtionships, and Relationshits.

2009-08-06T14:01:00.000-07:00

Let's stop for a moment.
Let's take it back.

We do all for each other,
one another,

together forever.
But what's it worth?

We talk to the other, as a friend, as a partner, as an other half, but are they really who they say?

Are you really who you say you are?

I mean all I hear today is, I want that one guy that makes me say this and that and makes me smile and laugh and cry, and is there to wipe my eye, and thinks about me in the morning, half way through the day, and when the moon is in eye's view. Yeah, you and every other love-struck fool who has values, standards. But have you ever stopped to think what kinda person you were giving to your mate?

Some of you are sitting saying, "What the fuck are you talking about?
Most of you already know.

Did you know that
62% of the population
would rather appease to the person they want
than appease to themselves,
because they think that
they need the other person to be happy?
I bet you didn't.

Did you also know that
the other 20% of the remaining 38%
are leading less-than-happy lives
because, not only are they looking for someone,
but everyone else that they've met
seems to have an issue with the original personality
that they see.
I bet you didn't.

Did you also know that
the last 18% of people
are either happy with their
significant other
or
don't care for one?
I bet you didn't.

Would you like to know why couples that fall in that 62% range end up having failed relationships?
Someone's not being real.
Yup, someone is not being who they truly are, and it sucks like hell when you get into something without knowing ALL the nitty gritty details.
Sometimes, it's the girls, and often times, it's the guys, but both sexes do it, and it's not helpful.
At all.
Period.

It's the way we work, plain and simple. Our mind tells us that if we do what they like, if we are what they like, then it should be no problem. We should get through this with ease, and we could make it last, right? WRONG!

See, the mind works in mysterious ways. And over time, things get tiring. And unless you've done it from an early age (and you could tell who you'll meet in the future), then there's a good chance that you'll slip up somewhere, and let some of you out, which usually happens when you've gotten to a comfortable point in the relationship. Sometimes you won't even notice that you lost the fake accent, or you stopped liking her favorite shows, or her music makes you wanna run for high heaven. It happens to the best of us when least expected, and it hits hard.

So, here's the question.

HOW DO YOU FIX IT?: Fix it before it starts....

Simple.

Now, I'm not perfect, but I know a thing or two that some people tend to miss. No one seems to catch the fact that being real isn't bad.

There's a fish for every sea, and there's a you out there for me.
Think like that.
It helps.

The minute you change yourself, you're lowering your own standards. There are more people out there changing themselves than there are people staying true to themselves. You'll actually see a blossoming relationship that way, because then if there's something you didn't like about the person, you can't say you didn't know up front.

Information before infatuation.
Know the mind before you grab the heart.
Know who you're fucking with, because in the end, it's still up to you.
Before foreplay, how about a sexy ass game of 20 questions?
Trust me. You want out of heartbreak? Then walk away from it.
If they say they like what you like, ask them a question about it,
if they like it that much, they should know, right?
Catch them in a lie before they catch you in a trance.

Now, you could ignore me, you could say I'm wrong, but it doesn't hurt to try with at least one person. God will not strike you down from the heavens. You will not get arrested.

Don't second guess the first love, but think first before you fall in love again.

So, I'm outta here, this is just my friendly advice. And with you, I leave a quote:

There are those that try to get into your pants.
There are those that try to get into your mind.
Look for those that try to get into your heart,
Because there's always more than one for you to find.

The World Today

Realtionships, and Relationshits.